For many men, what they want in a woman is for her to be all women-sex goddess, earth mother, understanding partner, and their safe haven in a storm. But, wake up and smell the coffee, play boy. You have to accept the reality - no one can have it all. And no one woman can be everything to one man - just as no one man can be everything to one woman. That is cold, hard facts of life.

Let's face it. Men give women a tough time of it. We like to put women into categories, we think of them as Madonna or whore, good girl or bad girl, virgin or vixen. Truth is, women are all of the proceeding and more. Many men have a fixation on being a woman's first man. When we think of being with a virgin, it sparks a dark desire in our hearts to sul1y that pure, sweet innocence. What can I say? It's sometimes a huge turn-on to think of ourselves as guide and teacher, shaping our pupil into a sexy study of sexual decadence. Then there are those that scrupulously avoid untested, untutored women. Who wants to teach a new recruit unused to the labours of love? It's a time consuming, painstaking exercise that may not yield the desired results after all. A daunting proposition requiring lots of patience and upkeep, being with a woman who has yet to experience her first complete sexual episode is no job for those of us who are busy men with no time or inclination to show her the ropes. Those who want satisfaction guaranteed, with a minimum of drama, should think twice and maybe pass on this opportunity.

Virgins you see can be very tough on your time, energy, and patience. Usually, a woman's attachment to her virginity is directly connected to her sense of self-esteem and the time of life in which she finds herself. Perhaps, if she is 18 and ripe for love and she's saving this precious gift for the right man, or she may be 30 years old, pleasingly plump and as yet untried in love. Whatever the situation, realize that although both women are card carrying virgins, they are very different people whose inclination to part with their virginity will be for very different reasons.

Then, too, women today are very different from women in the past. Difficult to find, virgins who are completely innocent are very rare as even women who have not had full sexual intercourse often have had varied sexual experiences which disqualifies them from being defined as being "100 percent pure. Face it. In this day and age, virgins are a dying breed. Because of that, their rarity makes them even more appealing to some of us. Be ready, however, for the ‘extra time you will have to spend cultivating her mind and body. If you aren't already a complete bastard, and you're a man with a conscience, you will have to cultivate your patience and pump up your communication skills to levels you've probably never before considered. Above all else, a virgin must have your respect and consideration before you move in her direction. If she is just on the verge of womanhood - on the right side of the laws governing statutory rape of course - her acquaintance with you will probably be carefully watched by her family - who will probably regard you with much suspicion, and rightly so, don't you agree?. At any rate, they usually have her best interests at heart. If you have no patience, do her the kindness and say goodbye now!

But please be warned. Pressure is never an option. If she does not give you your hearts desire freely, then it is not a gift worth having